From Susan's Facebook

"when you fall inlove, it is a temporary madness. it erupts like an earth quake and then it subsides. and when it subsides, you have to make a decision. you have to work out whether your roots are to become some what entwined together, that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. because this is what love is. love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not lying awake at night imagining that she is kissing every part of your body. no...dont blush. i am telling you some truths. for that is just being inlove, which any of us can convince ourselves we are. love itself is what is left over when being inlove has burned away..."

I dissagree. Being 'Inlove" can last a life time. I have seen old couples in parks and at restaurants who still look longingly in to each others eyes. I believe lust is what she is talking about. and when that LUST subsides enough to see clearly in a relationship you need communication, and warmth to sustain the conniction. Passion can be life long. Sex and talking is not just got the first few weeks of a relationship.

And I will not settle for less or take all of the blame in this. She can blame me. But I will not accept it all. I know I am seeking out feeling wanted sexually right now and that does have to do with her not wanting me. At least in part.